I don’t care who reads my blog. I have a lot of family who reads this, many friends from back home and here and other places, many relatives whom I don’t know very well, and complete strangers too. I don’t care about social sensitivities at the moment – because this is something that needs to be read and understood by each and every one of us.
We have internalized misogyny and in doing so, we have perpetuated a rape culture, one where the victims are blamed, where the first question on a person’s mind when hearing about sexual assault is “Well, what was she wearing?”
Let’s get one thing clear – rape is not a result of sexual desire.
Rape is an instrument of inequality, dominance, and an ideology so deeply rooted in society that victims are more often than not blamed for being raped. It is rooted in cultures where victims are afraid to even report rape for fear of being shamed. It is rooted in a patriarchy where people can use rape as a method of punishment in isolated areas.
It is rooted in a world where the biggest insult to a man is being equated to women; where MALE RAPE VICTIMS are virtually unheard of because no one wants to admit to being that weak. But ladies and gentlemen, male rape victims do exist, certainly not in as large a number as women, but a substantial number nonetheless, and one that CANNOT be ignored. And it isn’t just about rape – it’s sexual harassment that happens daily and can be reported by ANY woman, EVERY DAY!
Rape is rooted in our mindsets. Which is why I say let the protests rage on. Let them not be dimmed by voices crying out for peace. Forget peace. This is when you shatter the peace to cry out in outrage. This is when you break down taboos and hush-we-don’t-talk-about-these-things ideals and say NO. I RECLAIM MY AUTONOMY. I RECLAIM MY RIGHT TO JUSTICE.
You want victory for all the women who have succumbed to the trauma of rape? For the women to haven’t and rage on and fight? For the women who’ve accepted it and moved on but still have that scar marring their pasts?
Then get angry for all the people who’ve been assaulted and harassed and raped and molested. Get angry, and get angry loud. More rapes are left unreported than are not – shame on us for perpetuating this.
Enough is enough. It’s about time we changed things. It’s about time we taught our boys not to rape and didn’t just rely on our girls to be careful, because they damn well shouldn’t need to be. No more using “rape” as a casual interjection in everyday speech. No more talk of “sluts” getting what was coming to them. No more hesitation before a woman can report her assault. And no more inaction from the people who need to take action.
Tear the silence with a scream of outrage. It’s about damn time.